Check out WhyGirl post of Sept. 15, 2017. “Suicide is Becoming Epidemic. Why?”

“Stats on Suicide”

Here is a poem, most of us read in high school literature, and it’s still very poignant.

Richard Cory


Whenever Richard Cory went down town,
We people on the pavement looked at him:
He was a gentleman from sole to crown,
Clean favored, and imperially slim.

And he was always quietly arrayed,
And he was always human when he talked;
But still he fluttered pulses when he said,
“Good-morning,” and he glittered when he walked.

And he was rich—yes, richer than a king—
And admirably schooled in every grace:
In fine, we thought that he was everything
To make us wish that we were in his place.

So on we worked, and waited for the light,
And went without the meat, and cursed the bread;
And Richard Cory, one calm summer night,
Went home and put a bullet through his head.

Migrant GIRL dies–“Horrific, Tragic Death”

As you would expect, the White House takes no responsibility.

WASHINGTON — A White House official said on Friday that the Trump administration was not responsible for the  who died from dehydration last week while in the custody of the Border Patrol.

Officials said the girl, Jakelin Caal Maquin, and her father were among 163 migrants who turned themselves in to the Border Patrol in a remote area of desert in New Mexico, shortly after the group crossed into the United States.

Internal investigators at the Department of Homeland Security are looking into whether Border Patrol agents followed proper procedures while Jakelin was in their custody, officials said. An autopsy is expected, but the results may take several weeks, they said. The Washington Post first reported her death on Thursday.

Officials said Jakelin’s father signed a form saying she did not have any health problems. The document was in English, but officials said Border Patrol agents spoke with the father in Spanish and explained the form to him.

But around 5 a.m. on Dec. 7, while the migrants where being bused to a Border Patrol station in Lordsburg, N.M. — about three hours from where the group was initially apprehended — the father reported that his daughter was sick and had started vomiting.

“Why did the Commissioner of Customs & Border Protection keep this little girl’s death secret until after he testified before me & Senate Judiciary Committee this week? I will be demanding answers,” Senator Richard Blumenthal, Democrat of Connecticut, wrote on Twitter.

Source: New York Times

death of a 7-year-old Guatemalan girl


Burnout Checklist will help volunteers:

Burnout Busters — Eight tips to prevent volunteer burnoutPosted on November 19, 2015 by Thomas W. McKee

In order to prevent burnout, create a healthy volunteer culture by using the following burnout busters.

  1. Recruit teams rather than individuals:  Sharing the membership load with a team lightens the load.
  2. Create holidays:  Students and teachers get holiday breaks.  Workers get paid vacation. Why not members?  They need breaks from their role to get refreshed. One way to do this is to organize different shifts or time periods of commitment. Look at how you are organized.
  3. Organize tactically:  Tactics are short term tasks. Not having enough members/volunteers for an event can lead to burnout when you ask too much from too few. Tactical planning is essential to make sure you have just enough members/volunteers, but not so many that people stand around with nothing to do.
  4. Reconnect to purpose—think strategically: Members need to feel that what they are doing is essential to the cause. This is especially true when Members are doing administrative work. The members/volunteers  will wonder at times, “What difference am I making by getting this newsletter out?”
  5. Provide a volunteer break room:  A volunteer break room with food is a place for volunteers to retreat, relax and share together. Create a special place for your volunteers that they can call their own and stock it with snacks.he a
  6. Debrief emotionally draining roles:   volunteer on a very elite mountain climbing rescue team. He told me about a rescue attempt where the person their team was trying to rescue died on the mountain. To deal with this kind of stress, volunteer teams have debriefing sessions with trained professionals to help them deal with what they just witnessed.  In the past month I have met many volunteers who are spending their free time with abused children, battered women, the homeless, refugee immigrants, and patients who are dying.  Make sure you understand and provide the resources to deal with these kind of emotional draining roles.
  7. Recognize stamina diversity:  Every volunteer is unique. Some are able to handle large amounts of work while others cannot carry such a heavy load.  Be very aware of the tolerance levels of your volunteers and divide up the work assignments accordingly.

And a final note:  Remember that volunteers have other jobs, and they have a life outside of your organization. Our best volunteers are often involved in many organizations in addition to ours, so that means they could be on volunteer overload and heading straight towards the burnout wall. The main thing is to keep your volunteers feeling great about what they are doing. Volunteering on a regular basis will take everything volunteers are willing to give and often even more. We need to take these steps to make sure that we don’t lose the best volunteers.


Mother and Daughter friction is best told by filmmaker Ingmar Bergman’s film “Autumn Sonata”: Mothers, Daughters, and Monsters
Autumn Sonata (1978) cuts deep into a woman, even if she recoils from it. We are all some mother’s daughter, whether we were cherished or abandoned, spoiled or abused. Both of the film’s stars, Liv Ullmann and Ingrid Bergman, had daughters as well as celebrated careers.

BLACK FRIDAY. How and when did it originate?

BLACK FRIDAY. How and when did it originate?
early 17th century (as school slang, in the sense ‘Friday on which an examination is held’). The shopping sense dates from the 1960s and was originally used with reference to congestion created by shoppers; it was later explained as a day when retailers’ accounts went from being “in the red” to “in the black”


I am back and out of the cave.  I guess I was trying to avoid the Tsunami of Trump.  Over the last few months, so much has been going on.  We had a midterm election and thankfully there was a WAVE OF BLUE.

Fire storm in California, 82 people dead, 699 are missing.

Trump is behaving like an IDIOT.  No surprise.

Firefighter groups: Trump’s California wildfire tweet was ‘shameful’ and ‘ill-informed’

Bob Woodward’s new book, “Fear: Trump in the White House” quotes chief of staff John Kelly as having doubts about Trump’s mental faculties, declaring during one meeting, “We’re in Crazytown.” It also says he called Trump an “idiot,” an account that Kelly denied.

Nov. 9 —Thousand Oaks bar patrons scrambled in fear as gunman killed 12

Oct. 27— 11 killed, 6 injured in Pittsburgh synagogue shooting; FBI investigating as hate crime

Friends it is time to step UP and do what we can.


One California calamity after another, and yet we always endure
We have no hurricanes, cyclones or statewide freezes in California.
Everything else, we have.
Earthquakes, yes. Torrential downpours, yes. Mudslides, yes. Extended droughts, yes. A president who kicks us when we’re down, yes.
All that, as well as mass shootings and wind-whipped killer firestorms that devour parched vegetation, homes, people and everything else in their path.
A town named Paradise has been reduced to ash.
More than three dozen were killed in the wine country fires.
The Woolsey fire marches on West Hills and Malibu.
Thousand Oaks residents went from mass-killing vigils to praying that their homes would not burn.
You stand in wait of a tsunami, squadrons of locusts or volcanic eruptions, all of which are within the realm, and wonder how much more California must endure.
The answer, unfortunately, is quite a bit, if history is a good marker. And if you consider the fact that the state is built for disaster, yet we are helpless against its charms, drawn by growing millions to a theater of calamity.
The 1906 earthquake and fire that destroyed San Francisco is still a reminder that the state is always an instant away from major catastrophe. We are cracked from Eureka to Escondido, a pair of fragile plates grinding in different directions, and the southern portion of the San Andreas fault is frighteningly overdue for a quake that could kill thousands and knock out water, power, transportation and communication lines for months.
The topography of mountain and basin teams with drought/deluge cycles to invite wicked wildfires, and we’re addicted to building in suspiciously unsafe places.
“From the mid-19th to the early 20th centuries, earthquakes, floods, fire, disease and other catastrophes shaped and re-shaped California’s natural environment and the new towns and cities growing up across the state,” said the text of a 2011 University of California exhibit on the state’s history of natural disaster.
“Before European and American development, native Californian groups altered the landscape purposefully to preserve it, and avoided areas they knew to be dangerous. But by the mid-1800s, the Gold Rush brought a population boom. These newcomers naturally built new towns and cities around bays, harbors, rivers, mountains and fertile valleys. But because they didn’t know the landscape’s history, some communities were built on top of potentially dangerous environmental factors, such as flood plains and unseen earthquake faults.”
Some climate scientists warn that the drought/deluge cycle is tied to global warming, and could intensify. Before all of California is reduced to kindling, we need to rethink how and where we build.
Housing developments, some of them relatively new, line the San Andreas in the Coachella Valley, and cities throughout Southern California have done little to shore up seismic safety on commercial and residential developments.
Maybe the best way to show how much we love living in California is to better understand its history and respect its power.
“Surprisingly, most disaster survivors — whether displaced by flood, fire, or earthquake — did not leave or move to safer ground,” said the text of the UC Berkeley exhibit. “Instead, people worked to rebuild and reshape their cities in the same place.
They used newer and better building materials and techniques, hoping to create sturdier structures that would withstand another natural disaster.”
Well, they did and they didn’t. And the time to rethink the planning of the landscape is before, rather than after the damage is done.
All over California in the last few days, we’ve seen stories of people offering support to those who have lost loved ones or property.
We’ve seen firefighters and other responders risking their lives to save others.
We cling to the edge of the continent, shaken by loss, too foolish to run, or too much in love.
SOURCE—Steve Lopez, Nov. 11, 2018



Feet planted firmly on the ground

Solidly connected with life giving, nurturing Mother Nature

No titter tottering on the earth’s edge for me


Who dreamed up high-heeled shoes, killer heels, tippy-toppy heels?

Who designed corsets that leave women breathless?

Requiring fainting rooms in Victorian times?


Why during the Crusades—1096-1291— did warriors ride off to fight in the Holy wars securing their women left at home guarded by chastity belts?

Who decided women’s feet should be bound?

12th century royal court of China I presume.

Who decided men would control women’s uteruses?

Why have women for centuries worn veils to conceal themselves?

Why is the Burqa veil all consuming, enveloping the entire body with only a meshed screen for the eyes to see?

May we live in freedom and master our own bodies.

May we keep our eyes on the stars and our feet on the ground.

May we worship the Divine Mother, The Goddess, Kuan Yin!

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AT LAST—Immigrant Families Together

Trump signs executive order to keep migrant families together, says zero tolerance continues  


There were many protesters but few faithless electors as Donald Trump won the Electoral College vote Monday — ensuring that the billionaire will become America’s 45th president.

What a horror seeing photos of children in cages.  Separating children from families.

Fortunately ZERO TOLERANCE will hopefully restore sanity to the situation.

Immigration comic by fired Pittsburgh newspaper cartoonist projected onto SF federal building
$10,000 a minute pours into Bay Area couple’s fundraiser to reunite separated migrant families
Arnold Schwarzenegger says politicians, not kids, should be put in cages

Curiosity and asking “WHY?” is a good thing. But there is a shadow side.

Remembering Anthony Bourdain: The Man Who Ate the Cobra Heart—Curious and passionate in living life.

Anthony Bourdain Dead at 61 of Apparent Suicide. Anthony Bourdain, the chef, writer, and Emmy-winning television personality, died Friday morning of an apparent suicide at the age of 61.

For years, Bourdain battled substance abuse. In Kitchen Confidential, he detailed the lurid depths to which he sank while addicted to heroin and cocaine in the 1980s. Though he had given up hard drugs, “Maybe ’cause my experiences were so awful in the end, I’ve never been tempted to relapse.”

Bourdain endured as a poster boy for excess, whether in food, sex or illicit substances.

Source: Rolling Stone